I have and always will be a Beatles fan. They shaped the way I listened to music. Those four dudes from Liverpool and all the people they worked for (and worked for them), were managed by, were married to, and gave birth to feel like family. Naturally when I got married back in 1998, I danced with my husband to a Beatles song. In My Life, one of the most beautiful love songs ever written.
So what happens when that marriage ends? Does this ruin the song? The nostalgic meaning behind it? I can’t help but remember dancing & singing, looking at my then hubby, while my guests blew bubbles at us. It was romantic! But now I almost feel guilty when In My Life starts playing. Part of me wants to look at my partner of almost twelve years, because obviously, the lyrics are more appropriate in his case. But I don’t want to diminish the memory. Sure, me and the ex-husband didn’t work out, but at the time, that song was REAL. But….. who wants a sloppy seconds love song?
Look, we can’t control our feelings when we hear certain tunes. I’ll just be happy that I had a chance to use In My Life in that way. But what about you people? Did you have a special song with your former love that you still enjoy even after that relationship has gone kaputsy? Do share!
Meri's World 
In Your Eyes, by Peter Gabriel.
Now, this person isn’t exactly an ex. We never officially were a couple, on the record. We are actually still the best of friends, but certain series of events happened and we didn’t end up with each other. I would classify it a one of those “one that got away” scenarios.
Anyway, he is my Lloyd Dobler. He would randomly show up at my place with a cup of coffee and a smile and it really was the sweetest thing.
Awww, that is so sweet. :o)
Melodies and lyrics have a unique way of threading themselves through the fibers of our very souls. Once woven in it can’t be completely undone-wonderful and difficult. But, that is the beauty of music. It’s emotional connections transport us to the first point of origin. If the association is no longer a positive one, we can always try restringing the melody. If it’s not practical to do so, enjoy the song for what it meant at the time. The song is still beautiful as was that time in your life.
As for me, I adore all types of music – I’m all over the place – one day I listen to Mario Lanza sing the Great Caruso, the next day I’m listening to Amy Winehouse and the day after that maybe Harry Nilsson’s, The Point with little round-headed Oblio… music is a beautiful thing 🙂
AnnMarie
new blogger, old music enthusiast
ps Although, whenever I hear the song, Love Hurts by Nazareth, despite the song’s sad overtones, I think something good is going to happen. i can’t recall when I made that association.
Very true. :o)
Hope all is well and the music is fine 🙂
AnnMarie
Howie Day’s “Collide.” I am leaving that song behind with the ******* ex.
He can have that one! ;o)
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